My Love/Hate Relationship With Social Media

So, this is a post I’ve been wanting to write for a while. I’m not really sure what I’m aiming to achieve by sharing this with you guys, I think I just want to see if this is just a ‘me’ thing, you know?

I touched on this subject briefly in my ‘What I Wish I Knew When I Started Blogging‘ post and that got me really fired up about the subject. After doing a poll on Twitter (ha, the irony of it) to see if anyone would care about this post, it turned out that some people would and so here it is.

Now this isn’t me hating social media because various algorithms are making it insanely difficult to grow – although that is something that irritates me – but it’s a little more in-depth than that.

First, let me talk about why I sometimes love social media.

  1. You can meet some awesome people who you would otherwise never get the chance to know.
  2. It’s easy to stay in touch with people from around the world.
  3. It’s a great way to stay up to date on the news – and even see some of the news that isn’t always broadcast on TV.
  4. Other people’s profiles can be inspiring creatively.
  5. You can find some seriously hilarious stuff on there *cough* Chrissy Teigen *cough*.

There are many awesome things about social media, but there are also many things that really, really suck.

One of my major issues with social media is that it feels like so much pressure. Pressure to post, pressure to be cool and relatable, pressure to constantly be interacting with others. None of that comes naturally to me, but social media is also an essential element of blogging, so I try.

Before I started blogging I almost never used social media. Unless I have something that I really want to share, I don’t understand the point. It takes so much of my effort to think up one acceptable tweet to split up my scheduled blog tweets because I genuinely believe that I have very little to say that people will really care about. 

Every single time I go to write something on Twitter I ask myself “Why are you sharing this with the world? Who will care?”. Yet I still force myself to write something, because that’s what is expected. And if I didn’t, my scheduled tweets would stack up, I’d lose followers and that would be bad for my blog. I know followers don’t really mean anything, but to brands they are important and therefore I need to keep mine up if I want to be able to collaborate.

I wish I was able to tweet truly inspirational things about doing something good for the planet or equality, but I can never think of the right thing to say. I wish I was able to be constantly entertaining and funny, but comedic tweets don’t come naturally to me (I’m hilarious in person though, trust me).

I realise that this is such a ‘first world problem’, but I honestly do find it incredibly annoying (and at some points stressful) keeping up with social media.

Another reason that I hate social media is that, whilst being able to keep in touch with people is great, literally anybody can get in touch with me at any time of the day. I’m a very independent person and I really treasure my alone time, so there’s nothing worse than seeing messages from people I don’t really want to talk to and feeling pressured to reply. 

This is made way worse by the fact that nobody seems to text anymore – which upsets me to no end – but instead everybody messages on social media. So instead of being able to avoid someone’s message until I’m ready to reply, they will know I’m ignoring them because they’ll see any of my activity on social media. It definitely makes me feel like I have to be on and sociable at all times, which is seriously exhausting.

I personally much prefer to be able to live in the moment and not constantly be thinking about having to post something to keep my profiles updated. I genuinely think I would be happier in a world without social media. I also think the world would be a little better without it. There would be less drama (which I find incredibly tiresome), less bias, less people thinking their opinions are the most important simply because they have a blue tick.

You may have noticed that I haven’t mentioned Instagram yet, and whilst their algorithm is ridiculous and they are trying to stop smaller accounts from growing, I love the idea of Instagram. Sharing a picture to me is way easier than trying to think of something to say – after all, a picture is worth a thousand words – and I absolutely love photography. On Instagram I can constantly post things I’m proud of, rather than a random thought that has popped into my head that ‘will do’ for Twitter.

But I’ll keep at social media, because it’s part of the package and I truly love blogging. And whilst I wish I could delete all my accounts and become social media free sometimes, it is fun to scroll through.

– A x

4 Comments

  1. Liv January 18, 2018 / 5:53 PM

    It’s definitely not just you who feels this my lovely! So glad you’ve written this. There’s an insane amount of pressure on social media at the moment; it’s important to have a digital detox xx
    Liv
    livwrites.co.uk

  2. Alice January 24, 2018 / 12:51 PM

    You’re definitely not on your own here! Sometimes I feel like I’ve got loads to say but that nobody will really care so is there a point in posting it? And then other times I have nothing to say and I feel like my feed starts to look like a bot because it’s just my scheduled tweets with nothing else in between. I definitely have to take myself away from it all sometimes x

    Alice
    http://www.accordingtoalicex.com

  3. Chloe January 25, 2018 / 12:16 AM

    I can completely relate to this, and I sometimes have days when I feel like this too. Social media can be so overwhelming, and trying to keep up with a constantly changing platform, and not get lost in the process can be tough. Like you said, the pressure of posting and engaging regularly can sometimes seem too much. I’m so glad to hear that I’m not alone in feeling this way, thank you so much for sharing this.

    Chloe x

    https://chloeluye.wordpress.com

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